Slokam 10

The conflict and animosity between Daksha and Parameswaran, is the illustration of the conflict between father-in-law and son-in-law that we are witness to and also experience in our everyday lives. This conflict is as violent and as brutal as the one between mother in law and daughter in law. These animosities are life and death matters and are regardless of age, or personal qualification or attainments. 

The animosity is based on a mutual hatred and disrespect. The animosity, surprisingly, originates from the father in law and mother in law, on both sides of the family. The son in law (even Parameswaran himself, as depicted in this slokam), are led into and entrapped in this conflict, from which, there is no release.  This is a very very serious issue that is at the root of many many family and social disruptions.

The problem is pervasive and no one is exempt from its impact and consequences.  It breaks up lives and families and may well cause their destruction.

Injustice happens all around because o the conflict. 

The slokam brings out the consequences in all its gory detail.  Detachment, Vairagyam are very effective in combating this menace.  The conflict ultimately leads to isolation and separation and prevents the members from functioning as one family with one objective. 

Conflicts arise from the perception that we encroach on each other’s territory. It also arises when family members try to dominate others and dictate the priorities.  Conflict takes final  shape when Rajasic Guna gains ascendancy in the family.  In order to avoid sowing the seeds of conflict,  it is an absolute requirement that all the members of the family should be Sattvic, should be equinamous and should be practicing vairagyam.  It is very easy for the seeds Even if one member does not,  that one member will easily be able to induce conflict in all others.  This is what we observe in our everyday lives, both at the micro family level and at the larger society level.

The ultimate purpose of conflict is to ensure that we maintain a certain level of independence,  and should not be dependent on others for support, either social, economic or emotional. It is only to clearly establish the understanding within us, that the only relationship that should ever matter to anyone of us, is our relationship with the Paramathma. There is nothing else here that matters. Consider the level of our relationship to  the Paramathma as the primary driver of all the events in our lives.  We have to be clear that this connection overrides and influences all events in our lives.